If you’re triggered by an act or by a remark from somebody, it’s a sign that this somebody just came very close to touching a deep wound of yours.Triggers; we all have them yet most of us want to avoid them. I’m talking about those annoying habits that my husband has...

The self-loving way to live with fear The following are habits I have formed over the years to cultivate a loving relationship with myself and the world. I call this self-love. I have also included some self-care that I am adopting at the moment to choose love instead...

The price to pay for peace of mind is to take 100% responsibility. So why don’t we all experience peace of mind on a permanent basis? It sounds so simple? The short answer is that it hurts. It hurts to take responsibility because when you attribute responsibility for...

Have you ever asked yourself: "Come on, how hard can it be to stay on this diet? It’s just 30 days?" Or sworn to yourself: "I’ll be so good and not buy anything for a whole month once I’ve got this dress with those adorable shoes." These are both examples of the...

When we love unconditionally, it’s easy to lose ourselves. The object of our love has got our full attention and we take that to mean we can give ourselves none. Think of a young woman who’s in love for the first time: she can’t eat, she can’t sleep, her whole world...

   What stops you from doing, having and being what you want? Let me just answer that for you straight away: discomfort. An intense unwillingness to be uncomfortable. Let’s say you want to lose weight. What stops you from changing what you eat? Fear of being...

   The strange thing is that most people let what they observe dictate their emotions. That’s why when they see something they don’t like, they feel bad. So instead of changing their thoughts and emotions around what they see, they insist on being shown something good...

  Why is it that you believe you first have to lose 20 pounds, make a ton of money or get a degree before you deserve to be loved? Why is it that you withhold this free and unlimited resource from yourself? Why would you be outsourcing your most valuable asset?...

Life can easily become a struggle but that’s because you let it. If you start buying into the idea that there’re no alternatives to strife that’s when you can lose faith and courage. But the good news is that there’re always different ways of doing things so that life...

Self-care is not about the number of massages you get, the affirmations you practise or the healthy food you ingest. All these are of course efficient tools you can use to honour your body and mind, but they in no way constitute the blueprint for self-care. Self-care...

Do you experience crippling fear at the thought of what people might think if you went on holiday without your children? If you showed up at a parent/teacher meeting with your new lover? If you had a double dessert at a restaurant? If your socks weren’t the same...

We choose so many things in life. In fact, we get up in the morning and the choosing begins: what shampoo to use, what to have for breakfast, what clothes to wear, what to say to your family, how to get to work… the list is endless and for some of us, these are no...

Explore what life could be like once you let go of the protection of limiting beliefs.  Limiting beliefs serve the purpose of protecting us. We tell ourselves that we cannot do this and become that. Once we’ve shut the doors to these possibilities, we feel more...

We’re sometimes our own worst enemies. We say, think and believe we want something and then we go about doing everything NOT to get it. Isn’t that strange? Well, it’s called self-sabotage and it comes from our core beliefs about ourselves, the beliefs, or as I call...

We are all shaped by our past experiences and they make us what we are today. But how much of this is something that you have consciously chosen to be and how much is something you’ve just taken on, without questioning it?   Emotional wounds are what you get when...

Setting healthy boundaries is incredibly simple, but unfortunately simple is not synonymous with easy. We need to have healthy boundaries in place in order to protect and respect ourselves. If you haven’t got any boundaries in place, you’re leaving the door open for...

What is self-love? Is it being selfish, always putting your own needs before those of others? Is it feeling entitled, catering and making everybody else cater to your needs, whims and desires? Of course, it isn’t! Nothing could be further from the truth. People who...

If you are somebody who engages in negative self-talk and you started talking to other people the way you talk to yourself, you’d probably end up a very lonely person because nobody would want to be around you! So why is it that some of us feel compelled to be...

It is frankly absurd when you think of it that an overwhelming majority of the population has got the feeling of not being good enough. This begs the question: good enough for what? The answers are varied and the feeling of not being good enough covers just about...

I enjoy a glass of champagne at the Ritz as much as anybody but there’s no chance of my thinking that this pleasure is something I MUST HAVE! Something I can’t live without. Having a glass of anything at the Ritz is so much of a luxury that few people would think of...

All animals, including the slug, are born with the ability to feel fear, and human beings, being animals, have that capacity too. Fear has kept us out of danger. Fear is an automatic response; we don’t consciously decide to be frightened. Our subconscious picks up on...

Habits are useful. They allow us to save time. There’s no effort, no energy, no willpower involved so habits free up the brain to think, to have insights or to be inspired! Habits also mean that we can avoid making decisions. If the brain has to make too many...

Learning how to manage everyday stress is also learning to listen to yourself. And meditating can be an excellent way to achieve it! BUT, just between us, you’ve already tried it and the whole experience wasn’t really a success... Sitting with your legs crossed or in...