Don’t regret anything you’ve done, it makes you who you are.
Are you a people pleaser? I used to be. It used to be vital for me to be liked. Wanting to be liked spurred me on to… to overachieve. Nothing wrong with achieving, but I applied the strife & struggle method, not the authentic power one! From the outside, both look the same but on the inside, they don’t feel at all the same. On the outside, I was succeeding big time, going to prestigious music colleges in London and Paris where I played my favourite instrument, the harp. I lived the beautiful and exciting life of a classical musician, travelling around to play to adoring audiences. What’s wrong with this? Well, nothing, except all this had nothing to do with me. My motivator was the feeling that I was not good enough as I was and no amount of idolizing fans could change that. I was playing a role, see? I was living up to expectations and that led me to be totally inauthentic; fake! Charmingly so, but fake.
You know that you’re roleplaying when nothing seems to work anymore. For me that translated into fewer and fewer contracts and projects not coming off the ground. I was being led elsewhere. While working as a musician, I had been studying for a MA in literature (thinking that “just” being a musician wasn’t good enough). I thought I could very conveniently fill in the gaps in my contracts with some teaching! Was this a mistake or was it fate? I like to think the latter because teaching changed me forever, or rather, teaching took me back to who I REALLY was. Standing in front of a classroom is like having your photo taken, in extreme high definition, no photoshop! Very useful if you want to know the truth. My pupils taught me that I was good enough as I was: no need to put on a label, to play a role or to wear a mask. I could just be me… and get away with it!
Having applied the strife & struggle method for living, I couldn’t believe that just being me was an option! I had always found it difficult, no, let’s be honest, impossible to see how I was lovable, but once I returned to who it was I really was, everything fell into place! That’s when I became a life coach. I feel that with the right help and support, everybody, including you, can be who they are and love themselves for it. That’s what I help people realize. Authentic being is what makes life worth living. When you allow yourself to be YOU, you can step into your authentic power that comes with aligning your inner & outer purpose. It is a joyful experience, a bit like the one birds have, I imagine, when they learn to fly: you can’t fly a little – you have to go the whole way: believe it’s possible and then do it! Let me show you how.
“Who Do You Think You Are ?”
Behind this cheeky question lies a need to forge ourselves an identity.
Believing we’re not enough as we are, we take on labels, roles and start to wear masks to make up for what we think we lack.
Guest speaker at Réveil Créatif !
Invited by Réveil Créatif, I had the opportunity to talk about my experience at La Dynamo, Toulouse (France). If you speak French, you can watch it here!
“When I’m not creating do I really exist? “To create” and “to live” could be synonyms. Creating would then be like breathing. This would mean that it would be innate and that everybody would be able to do it, indeed ought to do it. You create in order not to fall into the trap of a life dedicated to routine, dictated by society; you create in order to replace a humdrum life with one where you can say “I see familiar things from a different perspective” and “I take risks that make me grow!”